Feeling sad, depressed, scared and angry? It’s okay if you are, life isn’t perfect.
It really is okay if you are, it’s how I can feel and there’s a million people out there that feel the same too! You’re certainly not alone.
I wish I could tell you it’s easily fixable but unfortunately it’s not. Healing takes time and the truth, the best way to get through it is to sit right in the middle of it and do your best to be ready for whatever comes up, which of course I know is the last thing any of us feel like doing.
We seek distractions to avoid the overwhelming emotions. It’s scary facing such strong emotions, when challenging them might cause them to intensify or even worse paralyse us. So we avoid our sadness, fear or rage and seek comfort in consumption; whether it be work or entertainment but we can only avoid our emotions for so long.
For me, my biggest trigger is feeling that I mourn my old life and the life I had imagined for myself. My life took a turn and it doesn’t look the way we think it should or the way society has lead me to believe is the right way.
But what is the right way?
This resistance to our new reality creates suffering on top of suffering but the bottom line is, change is inevitable.
We try to find happiness in the midst of ever changing conditions, trying to latch onto something permanent and stable but this is completely impossible.
We will change, our circumstances will change, there’s not one thing that doesn’t change.
The good news is that since we can count on change, we can trust that the suffering will change too.
I’m finally starting to adjust to my new role and the beauty that lies within it. No matter how tough times get my little girl is the best thing that ever has and ever will happen to me.
As Stephen Levine says; “Open yourself to discomfort. Meet it with mercy, not fear. Recognize that when our pain most calls for our embrace, we are often the least present. Soften, enter, and explore, and continue softening to make room for your life.”
To ease you through the suffering I’d like you to join me; rise each morning, take a deep breath and put one foot in front of the other. Let’s put healthy food in our bodies, get the rest we need and find loved ones to lean on. Meditate each morning (I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but give it a try for me) and when the overwhelming emotions arise let’s challenge them head on, and through it all….. let’s love ourselves.
Find what works best for you and be sure to take care of yourself.
Over time our sadness will soften just a bit and then a little bit more. Our tears will flow less often and we will begin to feel whole.
We are beginning to learn that we are stronger than we knew and life continues in its ever changing way.
Behind the darkness, there is light!