What is the best age to have a child? What do the guidelines tell us?
You’re right there isn’t one!
But as an unmarried pregnant lady with a freshly printed university degree and a part time job, I was convinced that 23 was not the age for me.
With a little help from society, I was adamant that I’d never be successful, never have money and be scraping by.
Everything I ever imagined for myself was quickly disappearing, leaving me feeling alone, scared, with absolutely no certainty in life.
Except for the fact that I had a child growing in my body. Yikes!
Looking back now, I realise how perfect that timing really was. It taught me more about myself, about life, than I ever thought was possible.
It also made me realise that becoming a mother at any age comes with its perks!
If you need a little reassurance (I know we all do at times), here are my reasons I absolutely love being a younger mama:
For me, this is probably one of my favourite perks!
Although I didn’t have the most glamorous labour, I can only imagine it would have been much worse the older I got!
I’m so grateful for the new relationship I have with my body.
After years spent struggling with body image, insecurities and unhealthy eating, pregnancy and labour finally taught me to love and respect my body.
I am finally in tune with myself and it’s been life changing!
I’m sure you’ll all agree, this is probably the most talked about topic right now! And for very good reason! We’ve all seen the news discussing the biological truths of our fertility.
The struggle of infertility is unfortunately very real for so many ladies today!
I’m so blessed to have Evie, I have what a lot of people would kill for.
We can always make more money, pursue new careers, and push forward with goals — but we can’t magic fertility!
Swings and Roundabouts
I’ll be 41 by the time Evie turns 18 which leaves plenty of life for globe trotting and lazy Sunday mornings. Let’s be honest, i’d take that over crammed sweaty bars and wicked hangovers, any day!
Grandparents & Grandchildren
We are so lucky to have both sets of parents around and they make excellent grandparents!
In, fact we have even managed to promote our grandparents to great grandparents, having everyone together is incredible! (and so is the extra help!)
Hopefully, I’ll be around to see my grandchildren one day!
Having a Purpose
Since having Evie, I have really had to grow up and as Dan tells me, I had to step out of my dream world, life isn’t always unicorns and rainbows and as much as I hate to admit it, he’s right! God damn it!
I know your 20-something years are for “finding yourself” but Evie has taught me more about myself and life in the 4 months she’s been by my side!
Admittedly, I was so lost when I discovered I was pregnant right up until the past few weeks and I think it massively contributes to my PND.
I’ve never been one to sit around and feel sorry for myself (or sit still for that matter) so I had to find the positives amongst the negatives and here I am today!
Reaching out and networking with other mamas in similar situations!
If it wasn’t for Evie, I don’t think I’d ever have started blogging, have the confidence or motivation to create BMT’s and i’m lucky enough to be loving every second of what I do alongside my little Ru!
I’m sure there are 40-something mamas with plenty of energy but more often than not, I get told by women of that age group just how lucky I am to have so much energy, and I know it’s true.
It’ll certainly help when I’m chasing the little terror around in a few months time!
Having Evie at 23 as opposed to 33, means I hopefully have an extra 10 years of being a mum! That’s a whole decade of extra love, cuddles, giggles and growth!
Recently, I lost a very dear family member and I can tell you that in her final moments she wasn’t yearning for more travelling or more money, she simply wanted more time with loved ones and a cup of tea!
I also know just how grateful she was for the amount of time and memories she had with all of us, especially Evie.
I often get told, “But you have your whole life ahead of you” and yes I do, they are right but I am lucky enough to have the added bonus of my little Ru!
Enjoy it ladies, they grow up too fast!