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Your influence as a mother is power, don’t waste it3 min read

Your influence as a mother is power, don’t waste it<span class="wtr-time-wrap after-title"><span class="wtr-time-number">3</span> min read</span>

Congratulations, you’re a mum! Don’t worry if life doesn’t feel quite like those fuzzy, romanticised visions of motherhood just yet. Being a new mum means riding the emotional rollercoaster of postpartum hormones, handling severe sleep deprivation, adapting to your changing body and recovering from childbirth – all whilst caring for your little bundle of joy!

With so many demands from home and family, there never seem to be enough hours in the day for you. Why not press pause once in a while and prioritise an afternoon dedicated to you and your health?

Putting yourself first doesn’t mean you don’t care about others, it means you’re smart enough to know you can’t help others if you don’t help yourself first.

How many times has someone tried to put you down when you are trying to look at the brighter side of things? What’s wrong with feeling good about life despite obstacles in our way? What’s wrong with trying to see the good in everything? Absolutely nothing is wrong with it! In fact, why would anyone resist thinking that way? There is an automatic assumption that negative is realistic and positive is unrealistic. What absolute madness!

You want to try that new exercise class everyone’s talking about, but you’ve seen the gym selfies, crop tops and cliques – you know you won’t fit in, but why?

Your brain is wired to decide your social status so your inner chimp analyses the situation to establish potential threats. It’s known as “confirmation bias” meaning you’ll notice the group of women at the front of the class with their washboard abs, before the ladies huffing and puffing at the back, because your brain doesn’t recognise them as a threat.

What most of us don’t appreciate and realise is everyone feels intimidated at some point; and the likely story is there will always be someone fitter and stronger than you. The key is to stop interpreting those feelings as a barrier and start utilising them for motivation. “Imposter syndrome” is an expansion tool to ensure the progression of your skills. So instead of avoiding a machine because you’ll appear clueless, why not ask someone how to use it? You may feel like the local gym idiot but on the other hand, it allows the other person to share their knowledge and boost their ego! Everyone wins! As with exercise, in life – the magic happens outside of your comfort zone!

Do you ever go wild in the aisles, to the extent your fridge now resembles an organic, gluten, diary, wheat, low fat, sugar free whole foods store? No surprise the thought of cooking feels completely overwhelming and we give up! The best advice I can give is to go back to basics and find what works for you, not the girl with 50 hours spare time and washboard abs.

You’ve thought through the end goal and you know your starting point but you haven’t thought out the in-between. We often compare to transformation pictures documented all over social media but we don’t see the struggles and small wins they encounter along the way and only end up disheartened as an end result when we don’t resemble the same changes.

It all comes down to habit forming. First, make the goal manageable. Instead of telling anyone who will listen to your plans to live off broccoli and kale for the rest of your days, start by making a healthy homemade dinner for two days and gradually build on your progress.

Remember to take it one step at a time and if you don’t succeed first time around, try and try again.

Love always,

Lou x


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